Movin' to the country...

Cowtown Pattie said...
What Would Wanda do if...Someone needs a plan of action to make a MAJOR lifestyle/physical move to a small town from a big city? We're talking where to start and how to keep that old bugaboo, "Fear of failure" from killing the dream.

Well, now Pattie...

The first thing to ask is "What am I afraid I'll fail at?" The answer to that question will put you on track to know just what it is that you really want. Turn your "fear of failure" question into a restatement of your dream...your goal...your desire. (Stay away from the "why" questions. They only take you into mental exercises that confuse the situation. "Why" is irrelevant. Go for "What?" questions instead.)

Fear is contraction and when we focus there, everything gets smaller--including the dream. However, if you focus on what you want and feed that, chances are you will get it.

Have you ever ridden a motorcycle? Instructors tell you when you are turning a corner look where you are going and the bike will follow. If you look right in front of your nose at the road, you are likely to run off the road. Being a Cowtown lady, I suspect that you have a similar thing with horses. Not only do you need to look where you are going, but you need to turn that horse's head so he can see the target, too.

So, chunk it down. What do you want from your move? What do you want your new life to look like? What do you hope will be better when you are in the small town instead of the big city? (It's not clear to me if you have the destination picked out or where you are in your process. Have you picked out a place to move to? Do you have a time line? Or are we talking about getting the right furniture...vehicle...job? If you want to share more details, I can give you more specifics.)

Once the picture of your dream is clear, then prioritize. The first step is often the hardest. Take a deep breath and stick your foot out there. The earth will catch you.

When you get to that step, let me know if I can help. In the meantime, here's wishing you Happy Trails and Smooth Moves...

Wanda