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I like paying taxes. With them I buy civilization.
Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
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Light and shadow. Foreground and background. Stand in the inbetween. Dance in the middle. That's what I'd do.
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When I walked out the front door yesterday, the colors just took my breath away. I am so grateful for the colors this time of year. They make up for the gray of the sky around here.
A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.
~Unknown~
Some days are like that. Hearing my own song. It's like I am running around with my fingers in my ears, yelling, "LALALALALALA!"
Today, I hope someone sings for me.
Macaroons. What can I say?
Take the challenge. That's what I'd do.
7. Current temperature in the 80s and not the 30s as seen above.
8. I have $8 in my pocket.
(Photo by Rebecca) This is my sister. We cover each other's backs. It's a good thing. You don't want either of us to call her sister. And my brother...whoo-doggies! He's got "Sisters"!
We can have sisters by birth or marriage or choice. It doesn't matter what kind of sister you have. You can still have a shirt. Send me an email if you want to order. Even if you don't have a sister, you can make people believe you do.
It's a good thing, indeed.
~ enough
~ having people who love me
~ having people in my life whom I love
~ the squirrels on my back deck who come knocking for food and bring me an unquantifiable amount of pleasure when I watch them
~ sight
~ the ability to feel pain
~ freedom to have opinions and express them
~ being an adult
~ San Pellegrino
~ homeopathy
~ blogs
~ Xena, Warrior Princess
~ prayer flags
~ St. Francis of Assisi
~ reading
~ teeth...even though some of them were bought and paid for rather than the ones I grew
~ finding a lost earring back
~ Ode Magazine
Write about what makes you grateful. Share your list here or on your own blog. Sometimes, a little introspection of the positive nature is a very good thing. Give us all a boost.
Oh, and by the way, it's Love Thursday. Being grateful is a good way to spread the Love.
That's what I'd do...
Wanda
Shame.
No, no...not shame on you for asking. Shame causes us to behave that way.
When we feel bad about ourselves, that is shame. Some people, have not developed their capacity to deal with those feelings so they project them on to others, making themselves good and the Other bad. That's where the narcissism comes in.
"I am bad" (or as someone I know used to say, "I am the piece of shit the universe revolves around") is shame. "I did something wrong and I feel bad about it" is guilt. We need some healthy guilt sometimes. We need to own up to screwing up and feel bad enough about it that we are not inclined to turn around and do it again for jollies or to make someone else feel bad or to see if we can get away with it. The need to make others wrong so we can be right is not the good kind of guilt or shame.
We try to make the person wrong instead of the behavior. That seems to be a cultural imperative.
Look at our advertising. If we are not like the models we are bad. Never mind the fact that the models aren't even that perfect. They are airbrushed and composites of body doubles and photo shopped to look that good. If we saw the model walking down the street in her natural state, we wouldn't recognize her because she would look like a real person. Yet this is what we are supposed to live up to.
And don't even get me started on Reality TV. Provocative behavior and winning at all costs is required. Apparently, these are the values our culture now promotes because it sells. We live vicariously through this media. Ouch.
Prison shows. Crime shows. Cop shows. Gangstas. Violence. What do we really value? And shouldn't we be ashamed of some of this? I think so.
Parenting styles swing between shaming and over-indulgence. As long as shaming people for who they are instead of what they do is the cultural norm, we will have this tendency.
When cooperation, responsibility for self and to others, respect, and values of interconnected humanity become the norm, then we will ALL start feeling better about ourselves.
Consciousness and personal values will bring us out of this mess. Try to become conscious of the language of shame and the interactions you have with others. That's what I'm trying to do.
Wanda
NB: None of this applies, of course, to me (in the privacy of my own car) yelling at stupid people doing their imitation of driving.
[...and that last one was a "joke" on me...lest anyone feel a need to shame me for it.]
When your sweet SO calls from the other room, "Honey, can you come here?" Go. There you will likely find your SO tilting the filing cabinet so it stands on only one edge. "I think the mouse is under there and I am afraid to set this down and squish it."
Check the bottom of the cabinet. You will likely find that there is a plinth so that the mouse will not be squished. Set the cabinet down. Then look at each other and say, "At least we know where it is. Now what do we do?"
Wait for SO to get a cup from the bathroom and return to the area; then, tilt the filing cabinet so that the drawers slide out and bang you in the shins. (This is not necessary, but it does add some color--both to the event and to the skin.)
When SO chases the mouse from the hiding place, yell to the cat, "Get it!" and watch as he nonchalantly turns his head to see the small rodent dash past him into the bathroom.
You and SO run into the bathroom behind the rodent. Shut the French doors and the door to the walk-in closet while SO is trying to catch the mouse behind the scale.
When the mouse heads back toward the French door, you are ready. (If you remember that you are not wearing any pants, this next step becomes even funnier.) Play goalie. When the mouse heads for the gap under the door, stick your foot in his path. When he runs up your bare leg, give a kick that flings him free, but not so far that he can't make another run for the door.
This time, try to block him with your foot, miss, and watch in amazement as he crawls through the very small space under the door.
Fling the door open and yell to the other cat, "Get him!" As the cat overshoots and runs beyond the mouse, trap the critter behind the pile of pillows in the bedroom. Lift the pillows carefully and watch the mouse run in the same direction the cat went, as SO yells, "Don't let him get into my office. We'll never find him."
Perhaps the mouse will realize that the cat is in the office and will choose to hide behind the pile of stuff on the floor in the hallway. Grab a pillow from the the bedroom to block one end of the opening. While SO kneels down with the cup, pull the pile away from the wall so that SO lies in wait with the trap at the only opening.
VOILA! The mouse's tail will stick out under the rim of the cup and SO can slip a piece of paper under it. Then SO takes the mouse outside for release where it quivers and quakes until it decides it is safe, whereupon, it gives itself a bath.
Remember that you have no pants on and get a good laugh at yourself. That's what I did.
I mean, that's what I'd do.
Since you asked...
Wanda
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I would suggest, however, that you do whatever is needed to be diagnosed as a Duck:
If you need more diagnostic criteria, I am sure we can come up with some.
Hang in there, Jason. That's what I would do.
Wanda
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