Monday, December 06, 2010

i am what i am

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.

Malcolm Forbes

I am. I am learning.

Oh, how painful it is to see what a shaming culture we are. If we are not like everybody else, we are shamed--with a view to being shamed into compliance and conformity.

That's our reptile brain at work. There is research showing that if one of a group of reptiles is somehow made to look different (for example paint a red spot on its head), the others will attack it.

"'s not us! Kill it."

Truly, we do have the capacity to choose the high road. We can learn to manage our reptile urges and appreciate our differences. Sometimes, accepting our own differences is the best place to start.

Believe it or not, diversity makes us stronger.


Deb Shucka said...

Always, accepting ourselves and loving ourselves is the starting place. Then we're less afraid of others not loving us and less fear leaves room for more love all around. I'm loving your reflective mood right now.

kario said...

I think sometimes it is much easier to define what we aren't than what we are. Those differences are so obvious (like the red spot), but it is what is inside us that makes us who we are that is so nebulous. Maybe we need to spend more time teaching our children how to define and value those things.

Food for thought. Thanks.

Carrie Link said...


Kathryn Grace said...

I'm a believer.