A brother asked one of the elders, saying: There are two brothers, of whom one remains praying in his cell, fasting six days at a time and doing a great deal of penance. The other one takes care of the sick. Which one's work is more pleasing to God? The elder replied: If that brother who fasts six days at a time were to hang himself up by the nose, he could not equal the one who takes care of the sick.The Wisdom of the Desert
Love is an action verb--not a feeling or a thought or a being verb.
Decide to love. Choose it even when you don't feel like it. (Yes, I'm talking to myself again.)